On the mind, relationships and decisions

A major problem in relationships today is that we've lost our patience — we want everything instantly, including love, and that makes us misunderstand what compromise actually means.

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the same kind of difficult people into your life? It turns out many of our choices — including the people we surround ourselves with — come from unconscious patterns formed in early childhood.

The story of Ina — a woman who hid her true self behind ambition and sharp words until a personal crisis broke her old image apart and let a more authentic version of her come to life.

A reflection on the voice of confidence we all wish we'd heard in our younger years, and an invitation to finally give it to ourselves now, through the mirror of coaching.

A lyrical reflection on feeling both love and pain at once, and on the life that pushes through the crack of pain, letting light into the walls we build to protect ourselves.

"I can't do this anymore, I've had enough. I tell you the same thing every time and you do nothing — what do I have to do to get you to listen, just once?" she said, sitting down on the bench, disappointed by yet another failed outing with her partner. "I'm here with you right now, I'm listening…"

Prompted by a recommendation, I recently watched a film about relationships, Newness — and here is what I took from it that I think is essential for couples.

If you had to live this exact life over and over, infinitely, would you want to? If the answer is no, it means you're not truly living it right now — a question that struck me while reading Nietzsche's Weep.

Conflict in a couple's relationship is usually seen as normal — but where is the line, and what do you do when the same argument keeps repeating, sometimes for a lifetime? Dr. Harville Hendrix, the relationship therapist behind Imago therapy, has an answer.